A Coworker gave me a beautiful serving dish last year when I got married. While I appreciate her thoughtfulness, the pattern just doesn’t suit me and I don’t have a lot of room for extra dishes.
I hate to just get rid of it, and am wondering if it is ok to give it away as a gift to someone else. Is that considered being cheap?
Is it Rude to Regift?
Dear China Girl,
Passing a nice gift on to someone else can be a great frugal strategy. I don’t think it is rude or cheap if you follow certain guidelines.
The difference is in the motivation: if you are giving it someone who you feel will truly enjoy it, then you are carrying along the thoughtful gesture of gift giving. If you are giving it to someone just to get out of buying them something, without any thought to whether it would suit the either, then you are being cheap.
Other “Rules of Regifting” include:
- Remember who gave you the gift: Do not give the item as a gift to the person you received it from.
- Do not regift to someone in front of the person who originally gave it to you, or even in the same circle of friends. It would definitely make you seem tacky if one friend showed up wearing a unique scarf another gave you as a gift the week before.
- If you receive a gift you know doesn’t suit you, leave it in its original packaging. You don’t want to give a gift that looks like it has been opened and rejected.
- Don’t say that the item is regifted when you pass it along to the new recipient. You thought of them when you saw the item. Let it speak for itself and feel confident in your decision.
If you find yourself holding onto something you received for a long time, and just cannot seem to come up with the right person to enjoy it, it may be time to donate it to a second hand store. Then at least someone may come along for whom it is the perfect gift!
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